So you’ve decided to pursue counseling or coaching, that’s great!
You are about to embark on an incredible journey of self-discovery and growth. Wondering how to choose the right counselor for you? Most of us offer a free consultation ~ please take us up on it! Finding the right person for you is worth taking the time to explore.
Choosing the right counselor or coach is such an important topic and one I don’t see being discussed nearly enough! Every single person I talk to gets this little talk about how to choose the right person for you. As a professional, I always ask clients if they have had counseling or coaching before. I often hear that they gave it a try, the professional seemed kind enough, it didn’t really work, so they stopped going and concluded that counseling just doesn’t work. AND I WANT TO FREAK OUT. Not on the client, but on the fact that the client did not get educated about how to choose the right person for them. I don’t actually freak out. Instead, I give the talk you see here over and over and over again. And I’ll keep giving it. Until everyone hears it ~ help me out and share this, ok?
As a client (yes, as a client ~ I can do this every day for the past 20 years and when my life gets a little ~or a lot~ crazy, I go get counseling or coaching). I have been there. My first counselor and I were not a good match. And it was kind of awful actually. I didn’t feel like I could really open up and bear my soul to her. AND I ASSUMED IT WAS MY FAULT. In my 20’s at the time, I pretty much assumed anything that wasn’t going well was my fault, it’s an HSP thing.
If only this professional had asked me to honor my vibes.
I wish she had told me that the reason the therapeutic process works so well is the therapeutic connection. And the therapeutic connection was really just about how well we “clicked.” And that if we didn’t click it wasn’t either of our faults, we just needed to get me to one of her friends that I did click with. It doesn’t mean she wasn’t a great therapist or a good person, she just wasn’t MY PERSON.
Because when it IS your person ~ it’s MAGIC.
The process of talking through your challenges with someone who gets you and is skilled in helping you explore yourself and your inner world is such a gift.
So, if you are interested, here is the more extended version of what I have to say about this topic. The top video is about a minute long and the bottom video is just over six minutes. And if you want it live, please reach out ~ I’m happy to talk about this. My mission is to educate everyone on this topic, so help me out and share it with a friend!